NEWLY WEDDED, MARRIED, AND IF THEY DECIDE UPON DIVORCE

 
And if they decide upon divorce, then Allâh is All-Hearer, All-Knower. (2:227)

During the duration of separation between the couple being four months, the couple is unable to solve their confusions and problems, and in each meeting, they are being lead to be more fights, causing more damage between them. While they try their best, however they still are unable to make up in their family lives.

If there are still a lot of misunderstandings amongst them, which proves they cannot find a way to live together, regardless of many reasons. In this condition, instead of living in tension and pressure, it is better for the couple, after the procedure of waiting for four months separation, then the final solution is divorce.

Lets realize the character of the person who has the label of the husband. See how Satan destroys the person who has dreamed and worked so hard for his family life, and how he destroyed it while thinking he is very smart.

In some cases, the husband goes so mental and retarded, without thinking of the results of his sayings towards his wife, in front of his children and others, he blames her of many things, and at times up to the extent of prostitution, by having relation with other men, without realizing the damages his words are causing, to his real partner and helper in life. Without any proof, but just to show off on how angry he is, without realizing the fire he is placing there, to his own dream home. 

Due to the fact, that both of them have a great responsibility to bear from Allah, and this is in order for them not to waste their time in unnecessary arguments, further leading them towards committing sins forever.

Due to their carelessness, the law of marriage will look like a joke, and it will turn in to a bad example in front of others, regardless of the religion the couple may belong to. Especially for Muslim couples, they become a bad example for this world, as our Prophet has informed us during his last sermon, that Satan has lost his hope, and our religion is complete. Due to lack of practice, there are only two ways in this world. One is the noblest of all paths, being the straight path, to abide by the guidance of
Allah and his messenger, the opposite is the other path, the most accursed of all paths, and that is to listen to the foolishness of Satan.

See how the most accursed one, Satan, leads to disasters in the family, for the most important aspect in life, being marriage, in order for the couple to experience happiness, and for the happiness of children.

However, so called modern 50/50 Muslims by label without practice, are trying their best to prove by their actions, that Satan did not loose his hope, and is working with them.

This means that the manual of our lifestyle has been completed for us, and we are the ones proving it to be wrong.

Truly, the religion with Allâh is Islâm. Those who were given the Scripture (Jews and Christians) did not differ except, out of mutual jealousy, after knowledge had come to them. And whoever disbelieves in the Ayât (proofs, evidences, verses, signs, revelations, etc.) of Allâh, then surely, Allâh is Swift in calling to account. (3:19)

We should see our carelessness, because we are not abiding the by the laws ordained upon us by Allah and his Noble Prophet's examples. Due to this reason, many lives are suffering today, and they are leaving a bad example for others, so people hate to get married, after they see these bad examples. A delay in divorce will be witnessed by many as a bad result of marriage.

Satan tells the husband, that he has so much control, and he corrupts the mind up to the extent that he thinks that instead of a wife, he thinks that he owns a slave lady. Which he has no idea that he is breaking the laws of Allah, and the orders or our Blessed Prophet. As our Prophet says, that a husband and wife are equal partners, however a husband has decision power because he is the one who runs worldly affairs and does the earnings outside of the house, so he may better judge.

Allah, the Highest, has ordained the husband to be an authority of the house. However, those husbands that try and take advantage from the law, have no idea who he is declaring war with, and that is the Lord, Creator, and the Supreme, Allah, the all-Knower of what we reveal in our actions, and what we conceal in our hearts and intentions. Towards us destroying his creations, likewise the person's wife and children.

Marriage is not a story line, written by a story writer for a movie, marriage is the biggest reality of life. Which may boost the life of an individual, that is if they adhere to the laws and order of Allah, the Highest, and the beneficial examples of our Noble Prophet, regardless if it may be the husband or the wife.

The person who was suffering as a single, being lonely, and is feeling like a leftover of society. Who is trying to find friends everyday, or finding a way to spend his lifestyle comfortably and to survive in a satisfactory manner. The concept of marriage is wrongly being represented by the ignorant.

Without marriage being present in one's lifestyle, they go to forbidden means for satisfaction, making them end up in places such as night clubs. Such individuals have no direction in their lifestyle to aim towards, and they only live in a careless manner.

 A husband thinks he can show his power and control over her, in order to make the lady beg him for divorce. Which shows to the non-practicing lady, and the non-believer, that Islamic law is defective because it only gives control in the hands of the husband. Without realizing the mistake of the ladies' behavior and lifestyle. For Islamic law can never be defective, due to the fact that this laws has been ordained upon us by the creator, under the condition of an individual abiding by it ALL THE WAY, in order to enjoy the full fruits of the Islamic law. Unlike the way the people are using the law just for nikkah and divorce, however they forget the practice in the middle for the responsibilities of the husband and wife. Why the husband has more responsibilities and controls, this is because it is for her own benefit and comfort, so that she may not have to suffer, in order to earn income, being the main source of the needs in the house. Also, when the husband makes a decision of divorce, what price does he have to pay to the lady. It is the order of Allah for the husband to control himself, regardless how much anger the lady develops against him.

For during the duration of the four months waiting time of separation, the husband must pay for all food, clothes, and accommodations, with money for her to spend. Also, if the wife has any pregnancy, it will be shown in that time, further giving more responsibility for the husband.

Giving the impression of injustice in Islamic law, because of lack of knowledge. In regards to the injustice of Islamic law, for they blame Islam, based upon the wrong actions of the husband, for he is doing injustice, because of lack of education, and ill practice of Islam.

Many ladies raise the question, when Islam teaches equality between husband and wife, why does the husband have the final control?

Based upon the reason, as mention above, for the husband has the responsibility and must earn income, in order to confront the expenses of the family.

Or in contrast, the lady she thinks, that she can kick him out of the home, in order to show her upper hand. These are the biggest Satanic acts, which are destroying whole generations, by careless actions of couples, which is beyond the boundaries set by Islam, furthermore this sets a bad image of a Muslim family lifestyle.

If there are children, then the couple, being mother and father, are unaware of the bad examples they are setting in front of their children, relatives, and the society at large, furthermore by doing so, they are earning sins from all directions, through their children, relatives, and society.

When an individual gives his brain under the control of Satan, by leaving the laws of The Highest, Allah, and the most beneficial of all, the examples of our Noble Prophet behind, the result is a total disaster for many lives.

The origin of Satan is from the jinns, for their brains are not more than a four year old. Therefore, when Satan controls one's brain, they start to act like four year olds, by going after their unlawful desires, without thinking of the grave results.

We can see when Satan sits in our brain, he blinds us, and we become enemies of our own families, mainly including our children. We become so degraded, worst then that of an animal, regardless of the results, the husband and wife uses insulting words from the tongue, up to the extent of assault by the hands, or any other articles they find to throw on each other.

Parents do not feel bad when they go to do such abnormal actions, because they have saw it so much in soap operas and movies, so they feel that this is a part of life, by seeing it so much, it does no longer looks abnormal to the common person.

They do so to try and show they are angry, however they do not know the horror and trauma they are permanently injecting in the mind of a child, who is the real victim of the scene.

Many times, when the anger is over, the parents are normal and cooled down, however the picture remains and haunts the child's mind, torturing him mentally, and making him keeping it in his mind and as a result there is continuous mental suffering.

By the careless actions and arguments of the most loving parents, the child never even thought in his dreams that these two pillars who are holding him, will destroy each other, which we know as conflicts and divorce.

Furthermore, this makes the child looses his confidence and self-esteem, because of his mental disturbance, he is unable to have a successful mental and physical growth.

Satan and those Satanic friends teach the parents, and makes them so proud that they fight once in a while, and later on they go together. They think that their marriage is so strong, that they have the ability to remake after fighting. They feel that these actions are a part of life, they think it is a good for them to release their anger and tensions. They sometimes tell each other, that if they do not tell each other, then where can they go to take out their anger. They show the best manners around the world, however when they come together, they hate each other's faces.

At many times conflicts and fights start not for money or anything else, except for each couple blaming each other's families, trying to prove one family superior to the other. They forget that those they are fighting for, do not really care about them.

However, while saying this, they forget, that this Satanic act, which goes and comes once in a while, can end up in to a divorce tomorrow, that which they are thinking as a joke today. The side effects and results, are endless suffering for the child, who he loves most, and in childhood, there is nothing more greater than parents.

The child in the beginning goes through a shock, and what kind of calamity has fallen upon him today. His little dream house, and his life's garden which he knows as his parents has now been destroyed. For the child, this calamity is worse than any natural disaster, which the child may absorb, and have patience, that is if the parents were to be dead.

The little brain is tortured so much, he has gone through so much already, even before opening his mind towards this world.

However, when the child sees live fighting, that is the biggest killer for the child, and the worst of all calamities. The word of divorce, will be a word which will haunt the child forever. Many children, when they hear the parents using the word of divorce, and they realize the meanings, they have hard times sleeping and thinking what will he happen to him and his home now, and where will his life be. He sees the stars of his dreams and goals collapsing in pieces.

This is endless suffering of the soul, regardless how rich the family may be. Continuous mental sufferings, without the child telling the parents, because the child already knows that the parents are mentally disturbed.

Now we may see, the crime committed by those who do a divorce, leaving a very bad example in front of this world. Never ending sins, being committed by those examples, of the couple who was divorced. How?

The endless suffering of children, and because of watching and listening this story, they will deny the biggest and most important Islamic action, which completes an individual's faith, and that is called marriage. Which our Holy Prophet has said, that a single person has only half iman, known as faith, and in order to complete one's faith, marriage is required.

Since the soul of the child has come in to the fetus up till growth, his mother  was comfort and protection for him from day one. The same mother, who was fulfilling all of his requirements, even including playing. The baby does not know how to talk, however the mother and baby may communicate, even in the language of the baby.

Now we may see the crimes we are committing by abusing the laws of marriage, and that is in front of Allah's eyes.

How can the child respect his father, after looking at the way he is treating and insulting his mother. Which makes the father in front of the eyes of the child, an enemy of comfort, regardless how hard the father may work in order to earn money for the family. Nothing in this world or any wealth, can replace the mother for the child, which is disturbing the comfort and shelter of the child.

How can the child respect his father, who is giving all of the hard times and saying whatever he feels like to his mother, so the child feels that what the father is saying to the mother, he is saying the same to the child. Mentally damaging the mind of the child, while building evil and envy towards the father. Making the parents raise a criminal, because of the carelessness in dealing amongst each other, leading them towards divorce.

The way the child is connected to the mother, it cannot be the same as the father, even if the father were to give the child the whole world, he cannot replace the mother.

A father never realizes, that no other lady may do the job, the way the mother may do so. Any child can live without this world or wealth, however there is no replacement of the mother for the child.

While the husband is creating an argument, and is insulting the wife, and is raising the word and sounds of DIVORCE, he is making the child suffer even more worst then a orphan.

An orphan who's father is dead, he has patience that his father is no longer there. However, a divorcee is giving constant mental torture on a regular basis to the child, as long as he is teasing his mother.

Lets focus on the role played by the mother, eventually resulting in to a divorce:

A mother should see, because of her wrong behavior and obedience to Satan, and his people, fashions, designs, spending day and night hardworked money for unnecessary reasons, this is instead of fulfilling her duty to guard her husband's wealth. Also unnecessarily, adopting the lifestyle of a soap opera, talk shows, and the lines of movies. Or if she is not much involved with that, she makes relation with those ladies, who are involved in Satanic activities. Always crying up to the extent of over exaggerating, being unthankful to the Lord and Provider of this Universe, Allah, the Master of the Day of Judgment. Forcing the husband, to earn money, whether legal or illegal, so that he may fulfill their endless unnecessary luxuries, which can be lived without them.

Normally being exquisite furniture, expensive clothing, cosmetics, and unnecessary improvements of the home. Always complain less room in the house, outdated clothes and furniture, showing the example of other neighbors, relatives, and friends, how comfortably are they living, in bigger houses, and more comfortable lifestyles, regardless if they are living in the same situation. Wanting to live in a bigger home, bigger than the home of her friends.

Always using insulting words to the husband, proving that he is a dummy and duffer, unable to keep up his family in a better condition. We must realize that these thoughts and actions are those of Satan.

Those Satanic ladies, who brainwash the victims of divorce, without realize the extent of suffering, instead of giving the message of peace and compromise with the husband, they try and teach "so called women's rights and liberation" and soap operas, although they do not know the single law of a women's right and liberation. They help her up to the stage of separation, and they work harder when the husband and wife are in the duration of separation for four months, ready to divorce.

They teach her not to be a fool, and not to show her weakness. They show her the impression that she can live a better life without this enemy, who is the husband. Who has given her so much trouble, making her the lowest and a slave of society. They teach her that this is a time of liberation and freedom, to be out of this hardship, which was suffered for many years. Or when they are newly separated, they say, that you are so lucky, he is opened now. Before she was suffering for a long time, and now she does not have to suffer, if she gets divorce.

When the lady goes in to trouble, and finally divorces, it is hard to find those friends and soap opera filled ladies, who use to work with her, in order to ensure that she ends up in divorce. These operation freedom ladies, may include the ladies' mother, sisters, friends, and cousins. They also include father and brother. However, once the job is done, they find they have no time to spend with this lady, who now has no house and shelter, known as her home. She now has no shelter for her children, and will now live by the mercy of others. And eventually, she will have to learn and earn herself, without a husband. Satan always pees in their ears, to say see, this is the life, no one is bothering you, you are now free and liberated.

The same father, mother, uncle, auntie, grand father and mother, turn their faces, and tell her to learn how she should live alone. They tell her, that millions have now been divorced, go out and find the way to make a living. (In simple terms, they help her get a divorce or find her own way, and now why is she going to them, they say they have enough responsibilities to take care of).

After divorce, especially for children, they will either hate their father or mother, regardless under who's custody they go under.

If they go under the custody of the mother, then she will backbite day and night about the father, in order to show her care for them. The results will be when the daughter sees this life, she herself will hate to get married, after they listen to the story of the mother, full of spices. After seeing the character of father represented by mother, the daughter will start to hate any man.

The mother will be happy, because she thinks that at least she has someone to listen to her stories, regardless how old the child is.

The mother is raising a fitnah, by brainwashing the children against the father. Regardless of thinking, what those innocent lives have already been through, because already their body is in two pieces. The father is separate, so half of the love is gone, the love and guidance which the children should receive from the father.

Likewise, the father should realize the disaster he is creating, because of his carelessness and unlawful desires.

Instead of our lifestyles adhering to the guidance of Allah, the All-Mighty, and our Noble Prophet, people are imitating the lifestyles of the non-believers. The stories which they see in the movies, they expect to live by, that is because Satan he shows them that this is the way to live.

For they are not ready to face any type of difficulty or challenge, because most of them treat their wives like a genie or a robot. Which may work without feeling tired, in order to perform their jobs in their lifestyles.

Most of the times, the lady is blamed for only knowing how to spend, but not how to earn. The husband always blames the lady, he says how hard has he worked to earn, and how easily does she burn his hard-work earned money.

The husband always forgets, that what kind of comfort is he receiving in his house, from the facility of the kitchen.

Why is this happening, due to the fact that if the husband and wife, are not adhering to the laws of Allah, the Supreme, and the Noble Prophet's examples, so the end results are in a disaster.

Whichever door is left opened for Satan, through many aspects such as imitating fashionable designer clothes from society, and adhering to unlawful desires. Moving with people who are non-practicing Muslims, and unnecessarily growing a relationship with them. People are so jealous when they see peace between a couple, for this is a pain and disaster for  them. For how are these people living so comfortably, the question rises how did this all start?

This is because the couple would like to show off that there is no movie story, better then their lifestyle, and no couple has love as much as they do. This is instead of keeping this as a secret, and working towards their children, so that they may adhere towards the laws of Allah, and realize his blessings upon us, and the examples of the Prophet in their lifestyles. 

From either wife or husband, Satan will come and eat the person's peace of mind, from comfort, and would drain the hardwork of life and dreams. The same dreams, which they have been dreaming, since their childhood.

In conclusion, from what is indicated, it is essential for us to be practicing Muslims, we must adhere to the laws of Allah, and the examples of our Prophet, so that we may leave no door opened for Satan, to come and destroy our family life, to be successful here and in the hereafter.

It has become a trend in society to have friends involved in the affairs of a family, regardless of husband or wife, they get involved with the label of brother and sister. This practice to call a foreigner a brother or sister, is not allowed in Islam, it must be a real blood relation.

In many cases, those who are called "brother and sister" verbally without reality, the relation goes so deep, ending up in the divorce between husband and wife. Because of this false Satanic relationship, giving a respectable name, under cover, while some other story is running behind.

"then Allâh is All-Hearer, All-Knower."

As the All-Knower, Allah, our Lord, has stated that verily not a single action is not out of his control, for verily our Lord, Creator, and the Master of the Day of Judgment, the all Powerful and Supreme, Allah, we must fear him, for we will have to account for in the hereafter. People are taking this fact lightly and easily, thinking they own this, destroying their family life by carelessness, bad habits, wrong actions, and unlawful desires.

Please note one's jewelry, laughs, perfumes, and cosmetics must be to please one's spouse, and to be exposed to others. This also opens the doors for Satan, in order for him to enter in one's happy and healthy family lifestyle.

May Allah guide us to the adherence of the laws of Allah, and the orders of our Noble Prophet, make he make us steadfast upon them. May Allah bring peace and tranquility amongst our family, so that we may attain success here and in the hereafter. In order for us to raise our children, who are our pearls in this life, to be in the manner of Islam.