O People, it is true that you have certain rights with regard to your women, but they also have rights over you. Remember that you have taken them as your wives only under Allah's trust and with His permission. If they abide by your right then to them belongs the right to be fed and clothed in kindness. Do treat your women well and be kind to them for they are your partners and committed helpers. And it is your right that they do not make friends with any one of whom you do not approve, as well as never to be unchaste.
"O
People, it is true that you have certain rights with regard to your
women," What rights is our Prophet 
referring to? Did we ever realize? That she stays in your control, she
raises your children according to Islamic law, and should not ask for
something which leads to you to illegal earnings, if she is asking for
unnecessary things which are forbidden in Islam, then you have a right to
stop it. Over spending, or to buy unnecessary things.
Men are the protectors and maintainers of women, because Allâh has made
one of them to excel the other, and because they spend (to support them)
from their means... (4:34)
"but they also have
rights over you." Meaning, Islam sees a woman, whether single
or married, as an individual in her own right, with the right to own and
dispose of her property and earnings without any guardianship over her
(whether that be her father, husband, or anyone else). She has the right
to buy and sell, give gifts and charity, and may spend her money as she
pleases. A marriage dowry is given by the groom to the bride for her own
personal use, and she keeps her own family name rather than taking her
husband’s.
Islam encourages the husband to treat his wife well, as the Prophet
Muhammad said: {The best among you are those who are best to their wives.}
...And they (women) have rights (over their husbands as regards living expenses, etc.) similar (to those of their husbands) over them (as regards obedience and respect, etc.) to what is reasonable, but men have a degree (of responsibility) over them. And Allâh is All-Mighty, All-Wise. (2:228)
"Remember that you have taken them as your wives only under Allah's trust and with His permission. " So do not forget that your wives are in your trust from Allah (SWT) this means that they are granted the way we learn from today's modern society, that our wife is a Jinn, who can take care of the house, and to make sure that the husband's clothes are cleaned and ironed, and then to cook food, and in some places they have to earn money also. Because our desires and dreams are to big, and we are unable to meet our expenses, and then we abuse them, and we complain that they are not taking care of the husband's family. And whenever we want to open our mouths we say to our wives that we will give them divorce, because we think that this is the way to control them if they are threatened, some husbands beat there wives for small things.
When Allah has given the wife in your trust, to manage your lifestyle and it to be improved, we take it as granted. How are we going to answer to Allah (SWT), when our beloved Prophet tells us that Allah has given them under a trust. So when we will go back to Allah, how are we going to answer him the help and management he gave us for our comfort, how did we treat them. Beware of it.
Prophet Muhammad said: {The best among you are those who are best to their wives.}
"If they abide by your right then to them belongs the right to be fed and clothed in kindness." An example is when your wives are obedient to you, it is your duty to take care of there needs, and there feelings, and there hopes. "fed and clothed in kindness." In today's world if the wife is helpful in all manners, and the husband takes advantage and tries and keeps her lower than he is, and thinks that he is smart, and has a very good control on his wife.
...and whether you disclose what is in your own selves or conceal it, Allâh will call you to account for it... (2:284)
We have to make sure that our money is not hidden from our wives, and she has the right to use our money without permission, this is not stealing because she is your equal partner. And if she wishes to spend this money within the limits, she can the way she wants, as long as its permissible in Islam.
"Do treat your women well and be kind to them for they are your partners and committed helpers." What the Prophet (SAW) is advising us is to make sure that we treat our partner and manager in the best manner, in order for them to give us a good backup in our lifetimes, and they have full confidence, and can guard our money, our homes, and our children. When our children see how there mother is being treated by you, they will treat her with the same respect, but if they see when you are screaming, and taking out your anger on her, what your children will learn is that whenever they get angry this is the way to take out the anger and frustration, and you are guarding them towards hell, because your wife is there mother, and as we know whoever treats there parents wrongly there end is hell. But if you your partner, meaning your wife in a polite manner, and always keep in mind that she is not your servant, but your helper. But in most cases we think we are giving her a favor because we earn and she spends, but she is spending for your heart to make it comfortable, and for your children, as long as she is a practicing Muslim. And she would buy clothes, and gets ready in order to please you, as long as it is under the boundaries of Islam, and it is suppose to be only for you.
"And it is your right that they do not make friends with any one of whom you do not approve, as well as never to be unchaste." This is a very important matter, to educate your wife to not move around with those whom you do not like, regardless if it is a family relative. In today's world, the wife introduces the husband, that this family is our friend, for example. And to make sure they do not go to close with those whom you allow with friendship, so they never lose there modesty, it should only be under the limits and boundaries of Islamic law. Otherwise, today 90% of the divorces happen due to the wrong company of the wife.