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learn how the Qur'an teaches us how to deal with our mother and father
every day instead of celebrating once a year. Study the Qur'an and Hadeeth
about the mother and father, and one should know that taking care of the
mother and father every day is important, one who does not be dutiful to
there mother and father is cursed by the prophet (SAW), and a great
punishment in the hereafter, which is counted in the major sins, such as
adultery.
Abu Hurairah (May Allah be pleased with him) reported: The Prophet (sallallaahu 'alaihi wa sallam) said, "May he be disgraced! May he be disgraced! May he be disgraced, whose parents, one or both, attain old age during his life time, and he does not enter Jannah (by rendering being dutiful to them)". [Muslim]. We must take care of there feelings, and not only once a year, but every day in our lifetimes, and we should never imitate the functions of the non-believers, they have no guideline, and do not care about there mother and father, and have only one day in the entire year to spend with there mother and father, and the forget how the mother and father took care of them when they were small, regardless of financial status. Abu Hurairah (May Allah be pleased with him) reported: A person came to Messenger of Allah (sallallaahu 'alaihi wa sallam) and asked, "Who among people is most deserving of my fine treatment?'' He (sallallaahu 'alaihi wa sallam) said, "Your mother". He again asked, ``Who next?'' "Your mother", the Prophet (sallallaahu 'alaihi wa sallam) replied again. He asked, "Who next?'' He (the Prophet (sallallaahu 'alaihi wa sallam)) said again, "Your mother.'' He again asked, "Then who?'' Thereupon he (sallallaahu 'alaihi wa sallam) said,'' Then your father.'' Allah, the Exalted, says: "Worship Allah and join none with Him (in worship); and do good to parents, kinsfolk, orphans, Al-Masakin (the poor), the neighbor who is near of kin, the neighbor who is a stranger, the companion by your side, the wayfarer (you meet), and those (slaves) whom your right hands possess". (4:36) "And fear Allah through Whom you demand (your mutual rights), and (do not cut the relations of) the wombs (kinship)". (4:1) "And those who join that which Allah has commanded to be joined (i.e., they are good to their relatives and do not sever the bond of kinship)". (13:21) "And we have enjoined on man to be good and dutiful to his parents". (29:8) "And your Rubb has decreed that you worship none but Him. And that you be dutiful to your parents. If one of them or both of them attain old age in your life, say not to them a word of disrespect, nor shout at them but address them in terms of honor. And lower unto them the wing of submission and humility through mercy, and say: `My Rubb! Bestow on them Your Mercy as they did bring me up when I was young". (17:23,24) "And We have enjoined on man (to be dutiful and good) to his parents. His mother bore him in weakness and hardship upon weakness and hardship, and his weaning is in two years- give thanks to Me and to your parents". (31:14) 312. `Abdullah bin Mas`ud (May Allah be pleased with him) reported: I asked the Prophet (sallallaahu 'alaihi wa sallam) , "Which of the deeds is loved most by Allah?'' Messenger of Allah (sallallaahu 'alaihi wa sallam) said, "Salat at its proper time.'' I asked, ``What next?'' He (sallallaahu 'alaihi wa sallam) replied, ``Kindness to parents.'' I asked, ``What next?'' He replied, ``Jihad in the way of Allah.'' [Al-Bukhari and Muslim].
"And your Rubb has decreed that you worship none but Him. And that you be dutiful to your parents. If one of them or both of them attain old age in your life, say not to them a word of disrespect, nor shout at them but address them in terms of honor. And lower unto them the wing of submission and humility through mercy, and say: `My Rubb! Bestow on them Your Mercy as they did bring me up when I was young.''' (17:23,24)
There are so many topics to be covered regarding the mother and father, so we should not follow what the non-believer. Because our commands are coming from Allah in the Qur'an. Teaching that we should remember our mother and father everyday. Our beloved Prophet (SAW) said: "Who imitates any other nation must be one of them." (Abu Dawud) |